Missing Stuff

[Ken G]

Looks like I've been missing some things that have been posted. I try to respond as much as possible.
Been nuts between work and doctor meetings for my wife. Spent all this morning at U of C medical center. Found out we're on the right track, just more tests. You drive from Yorkville to UofC. Looks like we'll be doing it a few more times yet.

Nothing life threatening, just makes her absolutely miserable. But a possible solution in sight. Only 21 operations like it have been done. Makes you nervous all the same.

SO, if I'm missing things here, I'm balancing a lot of balls and well, what you going to do. If I have the extra couple of hours in a day, I go fishing. Beats sitting in front of the computer. I have been trying to get things in writing. Therapy for me to keep me from going nuts.

If I'm not responding or absent all together. Now you know why.

So go catch fish, write it down, put it here. Gotta read something other than doctor reports.

[MattC]

No problem Ken, it sounds like you have more important things to be thinking about. Hope everything turns out well.

[Ken G]

Hope everything turns out well.

We try to keep that going.

What she has is apparently something that has been missed all her life. Hindsight being 20/20 it explains things going back to when she was a kid. In a nutshell, there's a ligament that puts pressure on an artery, it's attached veins and nerves in the surrounding area. Things that were happening to her as early as 6 years old might be explained by this. 37 years later after enduring a tremendous amount of discomfort on many levels, they finally found it. It's been hell for her and hard to watch and help her through, especially since there's virtually nothing I can do that would make her feel better. She's a tough nut though and keeps plowing through all the pain and bullshit.

Hopefully the impending surgery will take care of a lot of it. She says she'll settle for feeling half better.

Thanks Matt.

[Rob P]

Medical problems bring reality crashing home like a rock.

Hope all goes well.

Plenty of time to fish later..

[TackleBox]

Glad that you have this distraction and I'm happy to be a part of it regardless of the miniscule amout I contribute to it. In situations like these I try not to say anything unless I really have something to say.

I'd pat you on the shoulder if you were next to me. Sometimes that's all we need. It's all about the connection.

You two have a smile coming from me.

[Special Ed]

Things always have a funny way of working out. You know I never really gave much thought to this saying until I had a near-death experience years ago. I thought for sure I was done for, but as fate would have it, a decision I made years before saved my butt that day. My instinct and decision making skills were spot on, partly due to a disciplined upbringing, and partly due to military training.

My point is, as you have realized I'm sure, that most times when adversity or obstacles seem to block your path, maybe that path was not your path at all. Instead I like to think of them as guides, steering me in the direction I am meant to travel.

Not meaning to preach to you Ken, and I hope you don't take it that way. Just know that all us little people here are wishing nothing but the best outcome for you both, regardless of what gets in your way.

[Ken G]

Thanks guys.
Another test on Friday afternoon. Then a break till Nov. 9 with almost a whole day of meetings and tests. Then hopefully a scheduled surgery.

We are climbing the walls.

So if I say stupid out of character stuff. That's why. Chiming in all over the place lately is good therapy for me. Makes me think of more unimportant stuff.

Ed, my wife has gone through 4 years of hell to get to this point. We joke all the time how we're sure there's a reason for all of this.

When I was going through the hell of divorce and business failure a few years ago and my now wife was starting to go through her health issues, I had a joke. . . Every morning I would wake up, grab that first cup of coffee, go sit out on the porch to enjoy watching the sun come up, birds singing, still another beautiful day. God would look down, see me out there on the porch and say . . . shit, he made it through the night, now I have to come up with another way to screw with him.

Nice part is, we don't let this affect us as a couple. It is what it is. It's just stuff that is happening to and around us. It has nothing to do with us together. Keeps us grounded.

I've been in 6 situations where the outcome should have/could have had me dead. 4 are the should haves that came down to seconds and inches. You think differently after that.

But I figure I have 3 more tries left. If I were a cat.